I wrote this a while ago and have been debating whether or not to post this one for a while, but here it is:
"No one has any business being a virgin at this age"- Or so a friend recently said to me.
Why? Why expose myself to someone I am unsure of? Why dirty myself with intimate memories of someone I regret? Why do people accept promiscuity but treat chastity like it is the evil, the wrong, the easier choice of weaklings?
People claim that it is the conservatives that judge. But I have experienced far more judgement from those who claim to be open, accepting, and liberal for my choice of restraint then I have ever experienced from a conservative side for my choice to swear, drink, and open sexual curiosity. But I choose to practice restraint in my life and leave my curiosity at just that until the day that I would get married. Why is that so terrible?
In all reality anyone should know that choosing to sleep with a person you are attracted to is the easier choice. Giving in to ones desires is the most carnal of our reactions. It requires no thoughts, it is instinctive. To truly restrain is to choose the path of difficulty.
Life is hard and it will be full of pains. But it doesn't follow that because life has pain we must cause our self more. In my life I have met so many women who speak of regret towards former "lovers". I have yet to meet anyone that regretted not sleeping with more people before finding "the one". And to date, I don't regret NOT sleeping with even one man that claimed I would.
No, I will not weigh myself down with needless hurts that I must overcome before I can freely love another. I will not cause myself valid cases with which to judge the skills of the man I choose to finally be with. And I do not believe that my choice constitutes immaturity. To seek gratification and not be willing to practice restraint... that is the logic we try to break children of as we teach them the virtues of patience.
So I ask, why does my choice threaten you so? Why do you judge me? I don't go around telling you to live like me, why must I live like you?
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